I sat in the parking lot waiting for Anne to arrive. I’m always early, Anne is always a couple minutes late. It had been a while since we last met in person and my mind was swimming with questions and ideas eagerly wanting to share and collaborate. My heart was feeling the need to connect on a much deeper level, begging to once again be assured what it already knew, everything is and always will be okay. We had spoken briefly on the phone when we made the date to get together at her office. Like school girls we spoke fast and tried to let our ears catch up with our racing minds and lips. I had missed our late night banters and friendly discussions while we ironed out the laws of the Universe and infused it all with an overtired, overused, and overrun mommy energy.
I shared with her that I was changing the name of the first A Little Lift book to Letting Go because it seemed to sum up my journey better of having to live through a second failed marriage and hopefully prevent myself from going through it a third time. We talked about what we had learned about ourselves from both going through divorce and how the process eventually molded us into better versions of who we thought we could be. Our conversation turned into a mini support group and reminded Anne that she had once thought we should form a group to help women transition through divorce and emerge as a better version of themselves. Anne picked up her calendar book and said, “We’re doing it! We’re picking a date and opening it up to a handful of women who would like to meet at Blue Tree Reiki and share in their journey to a better place in their life.”
Anne had first found my book and begun reading it while she was going through her divorce. It was only coincidental that we met a year or so later and she recognized my name and mentioned that my book had helped her. It was ironic as I was in her office for the same reason, looking for help through a touchy transition in my life. I helped her without even knowing it and now she is helping me. It’s kind of how I imagine the Universe is supposed to work. When we come together and share our life experiences from a place of love without judgement or shame than there is only growth that will occur. I found in writing my first book that in order to become more of who you always imagined yourself to be, that you must first let go of everything that doesn’t support that miraculous soul and allow yourself to be renewed, and accepting of love.
I looked up at Anne and smiled. She said she was serious. She wanted me to come to Blue Tree Reiki and share pieces of my story with a small group so that they woman would know that they are not alone and there is hope in moving forward. Anne’s eyes twinkled as she waited patiently for me to agree. I nodded yes and felt a surge of excitement course through my body. I have a soft spot in my heart for people who feel like they are the “underdogs” in life, I’ve always shared my own experiences with others, even strangers so they wouldn’t feel as if they were the only ones wading in life’s muck. Anne picked up a pen and asked if January 21st worked for me for the first group. I nodded and said yes. She penciled in the first Letting Go discussion group.
As I sit here writing this post, I am wondering to myself if maybe I experienced divorce twice not just because I’m a slow learner, but also because someday I might need to be a little bit more empathetic to the journey of others. Maybe I experienced the darkness and rebirth that comes with divorce so I could let people know that its not always the easiest and best way out of a relationship. Maybe I experienced my divorces so that I could simply that people know that eventually everything will be okay again. What ever the reason, here I am, working with Anne while moving forward in the best way I know possible. Sharing my experiences with others so they know that they are not alone and they always have choices and options when it comes to building the life they want to live, just might be the reason I like best. If you would like to join our first “Letting Go” group centered on discussion of surviving divorce and becoming a newer version of self on January 21st email either myself or Anne. Bluetree143@gmail.com or Jparkersobo@gmail.com.
There will be a small fee of $5.00 each person.